As a parent we always want to see our children in a happy and calm mood. But it does not happen the same way every time we see them. As a toddler or pre-schooler, a child lacks self-control and naturally anger comes out in a drastic way rather in words because he can’t have the control as yet.
Occasional outbursts are pretty normal but there are things which we should do to shape child’s behaviour. Some of them are:
- Use of “NO”. This is one of the significant things to be taught, toddlers are normally interested in touching and exploring, they learn by touch easily. So, if there are any valuables you want to be marked as safe, please keep out of reach from them instead of saying NO every time they try to touch.
- Threats are over-rated. Rather use positive reinforcement methodology for them. Explain them how to use words to express their anger. First, make them calm by changing their position and later explain them in their suggestible state that how they could have expressed their anger instead of hitting or biting in frustration.
- Healthy distractions. While we teach our child to respond in words, there’s also nothing wrong with distracting him at times or trying another approach. Let’s say intentionally giving them alternatives or changing their focus. Unless they are being bribed with sweets snacks to behave nicely.
- House Rules. Control yourself as they can’t yet. This is another important aspect in parenting as children mimic their parents mostly, how they talk, walk, and show up in front of others. If you can express your anger in a calm and easy environment, they could do! So be sure, rules are for everyone when it comes to discipline.
- Praise. This is the point many of the parents are missing, when a child is acting in an appropriate manner, they need a gentle “well-done” and lovely pat on their shoulders. They deserve it and more than that it encourages them to behave more nicely next time they face any unpleasant situation.
Hope this will help you in managing your child’s anger with peaceful strategy. Let me know how you cope with your child’s aggressive behaviour, I would love to hear from you.
Stay Blessed!
